Passion or Curse?

Hello there, how are you doing?

The passion I’ll be talking about here is purely sensual. Stereotypes state that men have the right to be highly sensual but objectification is influenced by females, ironical isn't it?

If a female has sensual desires and is proudly open about it, the world terms her a “slut”. 

I just want to ask one question to the society I live in, getting intimated and becoming a mother is pious but getting intimated for physical pleasure is a sin, why? I just want one good reason to explain why men’s sensuality is termed as masculinity and female sensuality is termed as prostitution. I urge one and all don't make female sensuality: a taboo. Motherhood is celebrated in the entire world but for becoming a mother one has to give her virginity and involve in sex, nobody talks about that. I’m not against any theories of “motherhood” rather I’m against treating female sensuality as a curse. 

Behind the four walls of a room, it’s happening and is fabulous for the lover but the same lover wants to keep it a secret as if having intercourse is a crime. There is no shame in accepting the biological processes and the forms we have and the activities we do to reproduce. It is normal and it should be considered like that. If we get pleasure performing a certain sexual activity, it is perfectly fine.

Even today, if you talk to a 12 years girl, she will be ashamed to accept she has got her periods. Why has society made such a big deal of such a natural process as the “menstrual cycle”? Mothers teach their girl child to hide this from her male friends, colleagues, and whatnot. I was always curious to know why such teachings?  

Non-acceptance in religious places especially in “temples” during periods makes us feel non-human and alienated from the world. To such religious institutions I have a question: you celebrate the birth of God such as Krishna Janmashtami but why do we forget without intimacy he wouldn’t have been born at all and without periods his mother wouldn't have been able to conceive him (if we treat him as a normal living being). His Raasleela is something celebrated with pleasure but if that is done in the open, people get offended, saying he was ‘God’, you are a normal human being regardless he had a human form here in the world(mythology).  

If the above-said processes are so natural and normal why do we make it a taboo? The very use of the term “sex” offends the elder generation, why? Why are we forced to keep it a secret? 

Coming back to female sensuality, a girl goes through puberty and gets several hormonal changes in her teenage, her acceptance of her puberty and desire to explore the world should not make her a “prostitute”.  Like any other area of life like academics, sports, food, this is also normal. If one desires to explore it should be her personal preference and no one should be judgmental about it.

It’s hard to even start a conversation about sex but the faster we accept it is absolutely normal, the better for the coming generations. It's not only healthy to talk about sex, but it is also the need of the hour to provide sex education in present times in the right way. Let your girls be proud of their sexuality, no matter where they live, it should be their choice and not yours. You can guide them but not be the decision-maker yourself. Her body: her choice. The choice is right or wrong that is totally up to the experience she gains and the lessons she learns. Let her fly like the bird. Let her build her own personality; curbing any part of her will poison her confidence. Support her and lift her confidence. 

With this, I take your leave, do think about it. 

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Sanna